sex help!!!

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Registered: 03-03-2004
sex help!!!
2
Thu, 05-13-2004 - 7:33pm
hey yall...i need your help....i lost my viginity to my current bf and ever since then we havent been close...we dont talk anymore like we use to and whenever we are together all we do is have sex...i really care about him but it seems like now that we have gone as far as we can he isnt attracted to me anymore...any ideas to make this better? and any ideas how to maybe get myself "hot" and "sexy" like i use to be to him bc now its like we just have sex and it isnt even special
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Registered: 12-02-2003
Thu, 05-13-2004 - 7:41pm
I would talk to him about it. Is he the one that is always trying to jump right into sex? I wouldn't worry too much about trying to change yourself to get him to think your "hot" like you used to be to him. I'm sure you are still hot! I would definitely talk to him about it. A relationship should be more than just sex. Especially if it is making you feel bad about yourself then you need to make some changes in the relationship, not yourself.

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Registered: 07-31-2003
Thu, 05-13-2004 - 9:12pm
I agree with the last poster. You need to talk to him about your feelings. Ask him what has changed in the relationship, and what he expects from the relationship. That way, you can even see if it something that you want to be in. Why would you make yourself more "hot"? I understand that you lost your virginity to him, and you may think that once he got what he wanted, that it is all he wants. Talk to him, and if that is the case, make a decision to stay or go. However, don't think it is because you aren't "hot" enough. He is still having sex with you, isn't he?

 

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