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sex used against me
| Mon, 05-24-2004 - 1:57pm |
im 42 and my boyfriend is 46, well lately he used sex against me, cause he wants oral sex and i dont like to do it,so i dont, he got mad and says we dont have a relationship if i dont do that whenever he wants, and cause i dont, than he says i just use him to do things fr me, and that i am not his girlfriend if i dont, this is very mean of him i think, and to suggest that we have no relationship if i refuse to do this fr him, well what do you think,he always wants sex and i give it to him even if i dont want to really, but he dont care, i think that oral sex withj men taste terrible, and thats why i dont like doing it with him, please help our relationship is being so effected by this cause of his attitude of it, he gets verbally mean about it constantly, i give it to him too, but im to a point im fed up, every ttime hes does anything fr me, like take me to get groceries, than i know it to him, or if he takes my 16 yr old son to a friends, i owe sex to him,he drinks alot and smokes dope ( bf) and he wants his cake and eat it too, i guess, hes in the habit get drunk and get high, than get layed the next day, 3 yrs of this from him, and no matter what im suppose to do whatever he wants, im the one with the problem that he likes to get drunk and high, hes been going to bars at 10 or 11 in the morning, and gone all day but wont say whos hes been with half the time, some good buddy give him free booze and dope
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| Mon, 05-24-2004 - 2:43pm |
It sounds like the guy is being a jerk, but relationships are about compromise. If you really trully cant bring yourself to do something sexually then no one has the right to make you or put you down for it. However, he may feel like your using him because maybe you get oral from him but dont give back. Thats not fair. If you dont give it you shouldnt get it. You may need to do a little compromising on your part but what he is saying sounds like the whinings of 16 year old....its like saying come on, have sex with me...if you dont i can get sick from blue balls. You should maybe reconsider this relationship if one sex act is the be all and end all with him.
