sexless love

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Registered: 12-01-2007
sexless love
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Sat, 12-01-2007 - 11:47pm
HELP!! Sex is killing my relationship! Or rather, the lack thereof. My boyfriend and I have been together for over eight months, and we have yet to have successful sex. I am essentially his first girlfriend. He moved in with me about 4 months ago when my job relocated me. We have tried to have sex many times, but he keeps saying that he doesn't feel anything, and he goes soft shortly after going inside me. We thought it was because I have a lot of lubrication, so I bought Pinealtonin, but it didn't work. I even thought it was because my appearance didn't turn him on, so I cut/dyed my hair and started going to the
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Registered: 05-20-2004
Sun, 12-02-2007 - 2:48am
Wow this kinda sounds like me and my boyfriend. We've been together just about 9 months and have lived together since August. Fortunately we've had successful sex, but thats on very very rare occassions. We do the foreplay thing for a bit and im mega turned on but when he tries to enter me its like he's not hard enough so i lie and say something like "oh im so dry, sorry let me get my lube" (btw, thats so not that case, ive never had this trouble with any other guy before). So we get out the lube and he slides on in and then i can barely feel anything cause he's mega soft. He'll still put out a full effort but i know damn well he's not hard. My bf has diabetes and has for quite a while so i know thats a likely cause, but i just wish he'd own up to it instead of me taking the blame. I too have thought it was my appearance and took some drastic changes to try and spice things up but it didnt work. I wish i had some answers for you, im not much help cause we're kinda in the same boat, so i hope someone can help us both out, lol. I'm thinking of talking to my guy about it but it seems mega embarrassing!
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sun, 12-02-2007 - 7:19pm

Welcome to the board purpleroselrc,


Has he seen a doctor? Does he watch porn?