Sexual aversion, need help....please....

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Registered: 11-28-2007
Sexual aversion, need help....please....
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Wed, 11-28-2007 - 12:45am

Ok, I need help...I'm 30 years old, married, 3 kids, part time restaurant worker, part time student & I am desperately in need of relationship help.

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Registered: 08-21-2007
Wed, 11-28-2007 - 8:05am
I can't offer you a solution - I can only sympathise and tell you that you are not alone at all. I am 37 and have always had a very low sex drive - and problems with it in previous relationships.
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Registered: 11-28-2007
Wed, 11-28-2007 - 10:12am

Thanks for the support, and no not TMI lol....I actually have this message posted on the other board too....looking for as many good suggestions as I can get...and the support is nice too.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 11-28-2007 - 1:59pm

Welcome to the board tired9699,


While having mismatched libidos is a common thing.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 11-28-2007 - 3:38pm

If sex is physically painful for you, I would suggest that you set up an appt with your doc or, if you would feel more comfortable and have a male doc, with a female doc to discuss this. If you are too embarrassed to talk about it, write a list of problems, concerns, and questions and hand it to the doc when you are there. That will prompt the doc to get the conversation going and make it easier for you.

I would also suggest that you may want to see a counselor due to the panic and nausea that you are feeling on an emotional level. This amount of avoidance, even to the point of avoiding watching it on TV, is something that you should consider this for.

In the mean time, have you talked to your dh about how much this is causing you emotional and physical problems? If not, I would suggest that you do so. Perhaps, for the time being, until you are able to see a doc and a counselor about this, he could take care of his own needs or you could assist him without being physically involved. KWIM?

I wish you the best.

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