she cheated on all her bf's!

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Registered: 05-17-2004
she cheated on all her bf's!
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Sun, 06-27-2004 - 1:37pm
What the hell! I went on this date with this beautiful babe (NOT NO MORE). She reveals that she has cheated on all her bf's! Her reason was because she did'nt get what she wanted! HUGE RED FLAG!

Why would she tell me this? I never asked her that type of question. Could she be warning me? If we were together, and she did'nt tell me about her cheating, would she cheat on me?

Atleast she was honest

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 06-27-2004 - 2:12pm
She's probably trying to say "you'd better give me what I want" but not quite going about earning respect the right way! She sounds a tad high maintenance and sounds like she'd definitely cheat on you too, whether she gave you a heads up or not.
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Mon, 06-28-2004 - 12:33pm
At least she was honest? You've got to be kidding.....

Here's her profile - she thinks the world revolves around her and that everyone should 'jump' at the chance to meet all her needs and MAKE (and keep) her happy. She doesn't know that SHE is responsible for her own happiness. She doesn't know the meaning of the word loyality or faithfulness. She doesn't value those traits so she will blame the other person in the relationship if she strays. She's reactive - if you don't give me X, do this for me, make and keep me happy, my commitment to you is forgot and I will give my body to anyone else that shows me attention, affection, etc. This girl is NOT self-aware. She doesn't know what makes her tick, she doesn't know what motivates her and she do or say anything to justify her choices, decisions, behavior, actions, etc.


Carrie

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Registered: 04-23-2003
Mon, 06-28-2004 - 4:44pm
Some relationships are dead end relationships from the get-go. Much of my 20's were like this, on again off agin relationships where the other person was also cheating on me. I thought about your post after reading it and realized that the only person I never cheated on and have been fully faithful with is my husband of almost 7 years now. I am not a cheater or a bad person. I was just choosing bad mates while I was maturing and learning about life. I played the field because I wasn't married and for the most part ALL of the serious men I dated were still walking gigilo's that were not faithful to me either.

I was looking for love like everyone else. My heart was in the right place and I longed for a soul-mate. I attached myself with people who were not ready to settle down.When they betrayed me or wanted a break I cheated at times. To me it wasn't realy cheating because there was no marriage involved and the boyfriend at the time was spending full nights out and such.

I am and I always was capable of fidelity and monogomy, I just never found the right person until I met my husband. Now, our love and faithfullness is beautiful, we adore each other and value each other. I would never cheat. SO cheaters while dating don't always cheat while being married, when they find true love.

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Registered: 09-26-2003
Tue, 06-29-2004 - 8:55am

My guess is that by telling you about her shady past, she assumes she would be more desirable to you somehow...when actually, it does the opposite.


Ususally, I'll give people the benefit of the doubt and say that they are capable of being faithful again after infedilty...but this isnt the case. This chick gets her kicks out of it. If you choose to not go out with her again, be honest when telling her the reason why...maybe she'll realize what shes making herself look like.


Best wishes,