she says it over

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Registered: 06-21-2011
she says it over
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Tue, 06-21-2011 - 2:38am
My gilfriend and I have lived together for 2 years. She is the mother of 2 amazing girls, ages 4 and 17. We had plan to marry this year and I was to adopt the 4 year old. 6 months ago the 17 year old died in a car accident. Our finances have added to the stress and forced us to move to a smaller house. 2 months after the accident she demanded that I move into the other bedroom, which I did. She is now demanding that I move out and says that it is over, but wants me to continue paying all of the bills until she can next year. She says that this relationship does not work for her. I cook, clean, take care our 4 year old, and work all the time. Please help. I will do anything to save this relationship.
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Registered: 04-16-2008
Tue, 06-21-2011 - 3:04am

She's probably reacting to her daughters death in her behavior towards you right now. You should

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Tue, 06-21-2011 - 5:22am

Hi Doc.

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Registered: 06-22-2011
Thu, 06-23-2011 - 9:18am

Hi...sooo sorry for your loss. I believe she reacting to the death of her child. No parent should ever have to bury their child and i can only imagine the strain this has on your relationship. I would give her the space that she needs right now but continue to be her friend and be there for her emotionally. This is something she will need now more than anything regardless of what she says.........she hurting. I wouldn't however continue to pay the bills for her. Maybe help out but don't assume all the responsibility if you're not living there. Hopefully time will heal her wounds and things will get better for both of you. My prayers go out to you. Best of luck!