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She threatens to leave after arguments
| Mon, 03-12-2007 - 10:14am |
My wife of four years and I have a problem. Whenever we have an argument, no matter how minor, she can't deal with it and threatens to leave me nearly every time. We can get into an argument of her wanting the kids to play football and I want them to play basketball. She gets upset, starts yelling and then says, "We made a mistake getting married. This is never gonna work. One of us needs to move out." I am not going to say that I am perfect by any means, but I am more rational than her. I never raise my voice nor have I ever threatened to leave her. When we argue, two minutes later, I'm over it and ready to move on. She on the other hand, holds onto her anger from the arguments for days at a time. Why would she tell me she wants to move out or get a divorce after every argument? I don't get it. Last night it was over her 14 year old daughter. We got into an argument because I asked her daughter to leave our bedroom and the daughter got smart and after she left the room, my wife started arguing with me over what just happened and said she wanted a divorce. In our four years of marriage, my wife has said she wants a divorce probably 25 times.

Hi davidecarrano and welcome to the board,
My thinking is she is using the threat of divorce in an attempt to get her way. The two of you disagree/argue over something, she threatens divorce, and you give in. Do you think this could be it?
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Hi davidecarrano and welcome to the board.
I'd wonder how her last relationship/marriage was 'drama-wise' as it sounds likes she 'reacts' well, over-reacts and it could be from fear, attempt to control, etc.
I here your pain man.
My ex-wife did this too. Its a horrible thing to do to another person.
In my case, my ex-wife was on the fence committment wise. Throughout years of marriage counceling, all she would ever do is "not get divorced". Yet, as far as a relationship went, she did nothing to work on it or to improve it.
Ultimately, I filed for divorce. I made sure the kids were taken care of, and then filed. And oh boy, was she ever pissed off. Especially after all that time, she thought she had me in complete and total domination.
You don't have a marriage right now, and from the sound of it, your "wife" has no interest in being marriaed. I'd talk to a lawyer today.
The next time she threatens, tell her good riddance, and escort her politely to the door.