she wants NO sex at all!!!
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| Mon, 07-16-2007 - 12:58pm |
we have been married for 34 years now. both of us are 54 years old. for the last 5 years we have had sex about 3 to 4 times a year. every time i try to touch her, ask her for sex the answer is always no. I've tried to talk to her about it, but she says don't go there. maybe she looking for a way out, but doesn't want to be the one that cause's the divorce. maybe she hoping I will cheat on her, so she can say see he the one. We fight so much now, over every little thing know to man. last week we were fight on the phone and got loud and louder, finely i closed the call, about 5 minute's later 7 police cars are across the street looking for something. after about 10 minutes they leave, I think someone overhead me on the phone. I don't even want to be around her, because she finds things to fight about. plus the verbal abuse that comes out of her mouth. she has so much hate for me and the world. she doesn't have a girl friend in the whole world. in some ways i wish i die, i would be free from her hate. i think she like women, but can't bring her self to come out. she on antidepession meds, plus she now hate her job so much. I told her to quit. let move out to AZ.
I'm a very loving man, I don't like to fight. but she thrown gas on a fire, then put more on it.
I wish one of you were up for a mercy f***

Welcome to the board juan53sandvutlure,
I am sorry you and your wife are going through this difficult time. You mentioned she is on antidepressants. Do you think they are working? Maybe she needs to change meds. Is she still seeing the doctor that prescriped the meds? If not, I think you should encourage her to go again. Would she be open to marriage counseling?
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Hello:
"I wish one of you were up for a mercy f***" is TOTALLY INAPPROPRIATE.
I agree with Coltara - she needs her meds checked. If that's not it, I'd wonder where her hate comes from - maybe years of built up resentment?
Reading material to consider:
Relationship Rescue, Phil McGraw
Getting the Love You Want, Harville Hendrix
cl-ctara19811:
I see you just got married, great.
I think they work to a point, I think if she would take them 3 time's a day it would help. I know she take them twice day, but only half each time. She take alprazollam 0.5MG.
on the bottle it say for anxiety.
Yes she still seeing her doctor. I have call about four times in the last two year and asked the doctor please take a better look at her. nothing happens. I ask the doctor to put her on stress worker comp, but say she could only go on it for two week. That not going to help, she needs 6 months.
get this i use to look at porn about 9 years ago gave it all up. But now because of no sex for the last 9 months, maybe 10 who knows i can't rememeber now I jerk off to porn at home 2 to 3 times a day. she wants no sex and forget asking. so it's handjobs. she will never go to a marriage counselor, she would say she not the problem. she thinks it's all me.
flowers. cards, stuff bears, massages, don't work
over the weekend i got in the shower with her and gave her a 15 minute massage, she could of gave me a handjob. i almost can't rebmember what sex is like with her anymore.
maybe I should just cheat on her, I married and I never signed up for NO SEX.
glitter-graphics.com
So end the marriage then, if she's not willing to change things or go to counseling.
Cheating is never the answer--either fix it, or get out.
(I agree with Coltara - she needs her meds checked. If that's not it, I'd wonder where her hate comes from - maybe years of built up resentment?)
cl-itwinflame :
she call me some many bad name, if you heared her you would slap her and ask her what's wrong with you. She will nev--------er go to a counselor. I'm willing.
look, I have never hit her. some time I have called her name's when she has driven me into the ground with vebal abuse sometime in the open. sometime I think she dones't even know she doing it.
cl-itwinflame what could she be resentful for. I have never cheated on her. yes we may not have a million dollars, if that what she want then we may never hit that goal.
I don't think it's resentment, I think she under tons of stress at work. I told her that it time to quit, but she has this goal of making a million dollars. this is going to kill her one day, you can't take the million with you.
all i'm asking for is some handjobs and maybe sex once a month.
thanks geoteo,
let's see:
fatigue, yes
nausea, yes
constipation, big time
blurred vision, sometimes
decreased sexual drive, no gas, no oil, no battery, no start!!!
I have tried and tried to talk to my doctor, help her. just no good.
the thing that kill the most is the verb abuse by her. how can you love a person that is calling you names all the time.
I think why she hate me is, she hate her work so much now. work is four times as much now and her pay went up by only 3% for the year and for the last 3 years 3%. she a area HR manager only making 45,000, should be making 60,000 to 80,000 yearly.