Shold I wait???

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Registered: 01-08-2008
Shold I wait???
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Tue, 01-08-2008 - 4:42pm
I've been with my b.f. for a year and three months. We fight like any normal couple, well a little more then that. I love him to death he's my best friend. well there days ago he told me he had fun not having a girlfriend and had fun without me. And he also said he hates our relationship because it stresses him out. But after 3 days he still tries to hug me, still tries to kiss me and still every time when he hangs up the phone he says he loves me? My friends all told me a lot of guys do this that they just get so stressed they need their space.But he told me one time he regrets being with only two girls physically before he was with me and wanted to be more experienced before he was married. Now i'm scared that he is going to do something with a girl while where not together. And im scared if he does should i take him back if he wants to be with me again. I'm no txting him im not calling him.I'm just so confused...PLEASE HELP!!!!
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Registered: 09-30-2005
In reply to: kstar076
Tue, 01-08-2008 - 4:51pm

Welcome to the board kstar076,


There is nothing wrong with waiting for him for a little bit, but I wouldn't wait forever. He needs time right now to figure out what he wants.


Sorry you have to go through this.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-11-2006
In reply to: kstar076
Tue, 01-08-2008 - 6:44pm
How old are you and your boyfriend?
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-04-2007
In reply to: kstar076
Tue, 01-08-2008 - 6:47pm
The thing that sticks out the worst to me is that he told you he hates your relationship. If a bf told me that I would end it. What a hurtful thing to say.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-08-2008
In reply to: kstar076
Tue, 01-08-2008 - 7:00pm
I'm 18 turning 19 and hes 20 turning 21 both born in March and we were planning to move in with each other this summer...
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Registered: 02-20-2007
In reply to: kstar076
Tue, 01-08-2008 - 9:29pm
Please don't move in together. Fighting more than normal couples already, you're with a guy who says he "hates" your relationship and doesn't have as much fun with you as he does when he's single. If you live together it will end in disaster. I've been there before too - having to watch him pack up his stuff, or do it yourself, while trying to remain civil through a breakup is really really difficult. You're only 18 and in a relationship that probably will not last. Please don't pin too much of your life on this guy.
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Registered: 12-11-2006
In reply to: kstar076
Tue, 01-08-2008 - 11:01pm

At 21 your boyfriend should be thinking about dating for a few years and not moving in with anyone. He is mature enough to realize that he isn't mature enough to settle down. I think men are more realistic about that.


He can love you and know that he can't