Should I accept this?

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Registered: 06-25-2008
Should I accept this?
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Wed, 06-25-2008 - 11:41pm

I hope someone on here can tell me if I'm wrong, if I should accept this treatment? Here's my story: I met a man on an online dating site and we've been talking for about 3 months. He's been calling me everyday and e-mailing me. We finally met last week. He took me out to dinner and we had a wonderful time. At his invitation, we went on our second date two days later. I came to his house and met both his teenage daughters, we went to the beach, me and him and

He's got the sweetest heart, sometimes I think he's just too good for me!...

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Mon, 06-30-2008 - 2:27pm

The PURITY of your thought process is amazing.

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Mon, 06-30-2008 - 2:35pm

Are you women really so cynical that you think

He's got the sweetest heart, sometimes I think he's just too good for me!...

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Mon, 06-30-2008 - 2:42pm

In a word:

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Mon, 06-30-2008 - 3:03pm

So this guy HAD to let this woman sleep with him although he's only into you....there is no acceptable answer for that. She probably just didn't turn out in person as he hoped, the sex wasn't as good as he hoped. Of course she's mad. She should be, he used her TOO. He was a jerk to lead the other women on an d let them come.

His ability to manipulate you with his rhetoric is amazing....worked on them, too, I guess.

You are making a big mistake, as EVERYONE else can see.

He's still married. He runs women through his house at a pace very unhealthy for his kids.

You are already talking about having to be on him like "white on rice" to make sure he doesn't cheat. That is not the way to go into a relationship.

You've lost a rational perspective for some reason. This man has issues to resolve BEFORE he can be true to you or anyone else.

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Mon, 06-30-2008 - 3:05pm

"If this man wants to treat me like a Queen (per his e-mail) I say "Bring it".

:)"

Enjoy your Henry VIII, I'm sure he's just wonderful. No other man in history has ever put in effort to winning over a woman and ended up being anything but Prince Charming. Especially one who refuses to use condoms, that really is sweet. You're obviously not going to take anyone's advice here so you will learn on your own. I hope this works out well for you. Just be careful and don't put your health or kids at stake.

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Registered: 06-25-2008
Mon, 06-30-2008 - 3:06pm

Sheri, when you are giving advice to members on a message board, there is a level of responsibility that comes with that. He hasn't lied to me. Do you deny that? We were not even in

He's got the sweetest heart, sometimes I think he's just too good for me!...

Every day is C

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Registered: 06-25-2008
Mon, 06-30-2008 - 3:11pm

sd, this guy knew this woman before. He already had sex with her before this trip. If it's something he wanted to continue, why would he risk her fury by sending her home early. He had to pay $100 to upgrade her ticket to get her out of here today.


We were not in an exclusive relationship. He admitted he was wrong. He begs for my forgiveness. Can any of you tell me this: If he was running a game, why tell me she was even here? Doesn't that prove he's being honest?? He didn't have to.

He's got the sweetest heart, sometimes I think he's just too good for me!...

Every day is C

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Registered: 06-25-2008
Mon, 06-30-2008 - 3:14pm

eggberts, I am TRYING to listen. So, why did he tell me about Karen then??


And he KNOWS I will be breaking things in his house if this is all a lie. He already stated that he was surprised and releaved that KAREN didn't start breaking things when he told her she had to go and there wasn't going to be any sex.




Edited 6/30/2008 3:17 pm ET by priti2008

He's got the sweetest heart, sometimes I think he's just too good for me!...

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 06-30-2008 - 3:21pm

If you're going to use my words as a justification for getting involved with this guy, please use them IN CONTEXT.

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Mon, 06-30-2008 - 3:24pm

And AGAIN, we were NOT in an exclusive relationship, he told me about Karen and the other woman, he's sending Karen home early and making the other woman cancel her trip. He's having STD tests done today. He asked me to be in an exclusive relationship. He asked him daughters advice on how to GET ME BACK.


So, AGAIN, what did the man do wrong, ladies????

He's got the sweetest heart, sometimes I think he's just too good for me!...

Every day is C

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