Should I accept this?

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Registered: 06-25-2008
Should I accept this?
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Wed, 06-25-2008 - 11:41pm

I hope someone on here can tell me if I'm wrong, if I should accept this treatment? Here's my story: I met a man on an online dating site and we've been talking for about 3 months. He's been calling me everyday and e-mailing me. We finally met last week. He took me out to dinner and we had a wonderful time. At his invitation, we went on our second date two days later. I came to his house and met both his teenage daughters, we went to the beach, me and him and

He's got the sweetest heart, sometimes I think he's just too good for me!...

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Mon, 06-30-2008 - 7:15pm

For one? Asking TEENAGERS advice on how to "get back" the 3rd woman this month he was planning to have sex with ... or try to anyway --- given his ED.

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Mon, 06-30-2008 - 7:17pm

And he IS a MAN. They do like to have sex. He

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Mon, 06-30-2008 - 7:19pm

Actually, speaking w/ someone online & on the phone for 3 months does NOT make anyone "know them".

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Mon, 06-30-2008 - 7:20pm
Dont worry about the sleeping around! admittedly w/o condoms. He's having STD tests, & sharing his results!!! We all KNOW that *1* negative STD test covers you for life. They're all set ... dont worry.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 06-30-2008 - 7:21pm
Oh, come on, R, face it, you're just JEALOUS!!!
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Mon, 06-30-2008 - 7:23pm

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Registered: 06-25-2008
Mon, 06-30-2008 - 7:38pm

I'm just going to ignore the last few messages for obvious reasons. Now, for those who are concerned about me, we just talked. He sent Karen (other woman) home this morning at 9:00 am. According to him, she was pretty sad. He slept on the corner of Yvette's bed last night (his daughter)-proof right there that

He's got the sweetest heart, sometimes I think he's just too good for me!...

Every day is C

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Registered: 04-29-2003
Mon, 06-30-2008 - 7:47pm

Denial is not just a river in Egypt :)


If this situation is really happening in your life you need to get some help – you have seriously low self esteem not to be harsh but you need help – more so than anyone I’ve ever read on any message board.

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Mon, 06-30-2008 - 7:53pm

I'll make one last post, although your mind seems made up.

* Telling you he slept on the corner of his daughter's bed is not proof that he did sleep on the corner of his daughter's bed.

* Telling you something you do not want to hear is not proof that he has told you all you do not want to hear.

* Getting his daughters involved in his love life so quickly with so many women is reckless, and he is not acting in their best interest. If he is not acting in their best interest -- which he has known longer and loves more than you -- you cannot expect him to ever act in your best interest.

* Thrusting his daughters upon you is not proof that he is serious about you. After all, they just hung out with Karen and who knows before that. Having access to them doesn't make you special there.

You appear to have very low standards regarding men. You mentioned in the beginning wanting a real relationship. Sex and fancy dinners do not equal a real relationship -- even if he does agree to stop sleeping around. And just because you don't have anything better going on does not mean that you should waste your time on someone who does not have the right morals and wherewithall to give you what you want. If you get entangled with this Mr. Man for Right Now you won't be in the right emotional state to recognize, let alone date, a man who is right for you -- now and always.

I guess I've said all I wanted to say. You are a grown woman and can make your own decisions. But, one of the advantages of these messages boards is that you can get sound, objective advice - which is useful when you're in the love is blind mode. And it is of note that no one on any of the boards here has said that he sounds like an upstanding guy worthy of your time. You should really consider what everyone has said and think it through. If not now, then down the line.

Best of luck to you.

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Registered: 06-25-2008
Mon, 06-30-2008 - 8:12pm
Thanks, ioveranalyze. I don't want to say much more because I'm taking in all the good advice. Just one point about your post: Yes, his girls did just hang out with Karen, BUT he sent Karen "packing" while he has asked ME to be in an exclusive relationship with him. Did you read his e-mail to me? He even asked his girls how to win me back.

He's got the sweetest heart, sometimes I think he's just too good for me!...

Every day is C

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