Should I Be Concerned?

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-22-2004
Should I Be Concerned?
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Tue, 07-13-2004 - 12:54am
My boyfriend of three years subscribes to a "friend finder" service. He says it is so he can get pictures of women. He has also been writing messages to these women, telling them he wants to "hook up". He says he only writes the messages so the women will send him pictures. Since I found out about it a few days ago, he says he has stopped doing it. But I know for a FACT he has not stopped. I'm so confused...I don't know what to do. Am I being too insecure about this, or is looking at naked pictures of women normal? I'm also ocncerned about the lying. Please help.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-04-2003
Tue, 07-13-2004 - 2:31pm
Ask him if you were doing the same thing would he be 'ok' with it? I think not. If you were writing guys, getting pics from men, etc. I'm sure he wouldn't like it. His behavior is not appropriate for someone in an exclusive, committed relationship UNLESS you both agreed before hand that this type of interaction with other women/men was appropriate. Some people would even consider his behavior as cheating.

Looking at naked pics is normal, but not soliciting them from strangers. He could go to the store and buy them if he wanted them.


Carrie