Should i be jealous?

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-29-2008
Should i be jealous?
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Thu, 05-29-2008 - 9:22am

Ive been dating my boyfriend for about 1 year and a half now. I am a single mom of two and was cheated on before. So im really paranoid now when i come across certain things. His best friend is now single and has been inviting him to some place named Johnny's Bar, at first i didnt have a problem with it until I seen a text message that said " I'm going to Johnny's want to go LOL" so I asked him about it and all he did was laugh and ignore me. So i did some researching and found out that the place is like hooters just that the girls dress more like strippers. They've been there about 3 or 4 times for lunch. And i seriously don't know if I'm exaggerating by being mad at him for it? Or if I am acting the way i should be about all this. Any advice? I've included the link to it so that you can see what it looks like.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-02-2007
Thu, 05-29-2008 - 10:16am
Has he ever given you a reason to be mis trusting of him?
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-29-2008
Thu, 05-29-2008 - 11:39am
The only reason he has made me not trust him and just a tiny bit is that he had text a girl on a night that we got into an argument. we were at a wedding he was drunk and ignoring me the whole entire time. so i told him to take me home. we argued on our way to the car and i ended up driving away in my brother in laws car. he text me told me he was sorry but in between all those text messages he text
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Registered: 12-16-2003
Thu, 05-29-2008 - 11:43am

I think you're over-reacting.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-16-2003
Thu, 05-29-2008 - 11:48am
Why are you checking his phone and reading his text messages all the time?
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 05-29-2008 - 12:39pm

Welcome to the board confused1001,


I think you have gotten good advice. I just wanted to recommend some reading material to you:


If This Is Love Why Do I Feel So Insecure? by Carl G. Hindy


Learning to Love Yourself: Finding Your Self-Worth, by Sharon Wegscheider Cruse


How to Raise Your Self-Esteem, Nathaniel Branden


The Aladdin Factor, Jack Canfield & Mark Victor Hansen


The Magic of Thinking Big, David J. Schwartz


iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2005
Thu, 05-29-2008 - 12:45pm

Welcome to the board confused1001,


I don't see any reason that you should be jealous about him going to this place for lunch. Yeah the girls may be dressed scantily, but what if he went to the swimming pool without you or what if some girl walking down the street wasn't wearing were much.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-24-2008
Thu, 05-29-2008 - 6:45pm

I dont blame you for being annoyed by his choice in restaurants.