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should I be mad??
| Tue, 08-17-2004 - 9:49am |
I just discovered that my fiance had a one night stand with his brother's new girlfriend. The "fling" happened before we even began dating, but my fiance denied having any relations with her. Now that I know the truth, should I be mad that he lied about doing anything with her? He says he doesn't think revealing his past is healthy to us, and it only makes us jealous about something that happened before we even dated.
Am I crazy to be upset that he lied to me?
Am I crazy to be upset that he lied to me?

I would be more upset if it happened when you were dating. As it happened before you two were involved I would let it go. Have a talk with him now that you, as a couple, need to be able to communicate even difficult things ...things you may not want to hear - to one and other, going forward in your relationship.
If the roles were reversed I may have told the same lie as it portrays your bf in a pretty poor light. Talk about a rotten thing to do.....sleeping with his brother's new gf!!! That is not something that I would want to tell anyone about let alone my current girlfriend. It shows a MAJOR lapse in judgement on your bf's part. Not too cool in anyone's book. So, I'm not sure why he changed his tune and told you about it (hopefully it wasn't thrown in your face) but if all else is good, open and honest I may chalk that up to an all around poor decision on his part.
Like my bf, has a long time friend that he slept with way back when, he was upfront with me from the beginning.... I like her. She's married, we hang out with them. Now, if he lied to me and said they never did anything together and I found out about it, I wouldn't be with him and I wouldn't trust much of anything he had to say.
I agree with gina, this guy betrayed his brother, unless of course, he slept with the new girlfriend before the girl and his brother hooked up.
Carrie