Should I be Upset
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Should I be Upset
| Wed, 10-13-2004 - 11:54am |
I am upset that my husband had a meeting in San Francisco and afterwards went out to have "drinks". He told me it would be no big deal and not to worry. I am upset about the fact that before he left that day, he said he would only have a few and be home around a certain time. I asked him to call me to be respectful. When all said and done, he did not call me till he was finished for the evening and stayed out later than he said. It upset me that he totally forgot about me when he was out with other people. He does not acknowledge any of it, and thinks I am making too much of it. Am I.

Pianoguy is a little confused about your post???
There was no indication if the "drinks" were part of a business venture or company function...or whether it was just an outside pleasure? Also...if there were any women involved?
Not knowing if you live on the west or east coast...there's also a time element. If your husband returned around 11pm or later (west coast time)...it would be 3AM on the east coast! Would you honestly want to lose a little beauty sleep in favor of a late night phone call?
Just out of curiosity...have you been married very long? And if so...what's with the "checking up bit?" If you start making rules and insisting that your husband be back in his hotel room by a certain time...this is how a MOM would respond...not a WIFE!
And not to pick on you...but this is usually the way most marriages begin to dissolve!
Pianoguy
I can understand your concern, but do you trust him? If he has never done anything to give you reason to suspect anything, why are you upset? I just left a post on here and I obviously have trust issues with my husband, so if you do, I can totally understand that. I've been on business trips before and I haven't called home, not bc I was up to something but bc I was tired.
Just so I understand where you are coming from, why would he have to call home to be respectful? BTW, I'm sure he didn't forget about you while he was out w/ other people. He probably had a good time, came home and was tired - that doesn't mean he doesn't respect you.
Hugs,
Shae
Carrie