Should I call him again?

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Registered: 02-02-2004
Should I call him again?
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Mon, 02-02-2004 - 11:52am





This is a bizarre question. I have been pondering on for a while. Maybe you can help me out!

I met a guy online a year ago. We communicated for two weeks via email and got along really well. We decided to meet and had a great time. One thing let to another and we ended up going upto his place and next thing we know we are having sex. It was the most amazing sex we have both had.

He was leaving town, the next day on business and said he will call me as soon as he gets back. I was struck with the love bug but I knew I didn't have time to get involved at that time. I emailed him my thoughts. He appreciated my honesty and asked if we could stay on as friends, which we did. We have had stayed in touch via email and on the phone sometimes. We have made many attempts to get together, but have had a hard time due to schedules, especially his. He travels alot for work.

At the end of last year, I had emailed him my thoughts and to paraphrase, I basically told him we hit it off well but our thing has turned into an email friendship. Is it worth continuing or should we both end it. He said, no I want to stay on as friends, I like you alot. However, my schedule is so out of wack, I have no control over it. Its not fair to you if I make the commitment and can't follow through. He thinks we are a good match. I still like you and want to stay on as friends if you don't mind. So we agreed to stay on as friends.

Don't get me wrong. My gut instincts tell me that he is a descent human being. He has helped me with several things over time, such as my resume etc. I just think he is genuinly busy.

Here is my question. I emailed him twice over the past two weeks but haven't heard back from him. I would like to see him soon. A coworker recommended a nice bar/lounge to check out. I left him a voicemail last night that perhaps we should go check out this place midweek this week if he is in town and has time. I haven't heard back from him. Should I call him again at work or his cell and ask him.(he gave me his work number and said, I can call him anytime. He likes to hear from me). Or should I wait to for him to call. Or should I consider this a lost cause and move on.

Honestly, I like the guy and my gut instincts tells me that he likes me too but work and work related travel is keeping him super busy. I have dated other people in the meantime, but my thought keep on going back to him and wanting him. I am not looking to get married tommorrow. I want to get to know him more as friends and see if there is more and maybe pursue it down the road. I think we both have chemistry. We are both 29.

I am not sure about the whole situation. I am torn!

What would be anyone's take on this! I am all ears.

Thanks in advance!!


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Registered: 08-04-2003
Mon, 02-02-2004 - 1:33pm
Should I call him again?

No. Either he's out of town and busy or he's not interested.


Carrie