Should I call it a day?
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|Sun, 06-29-2014 - 7:08pm|
I could really do with some advice regarding my relationship, I am unsure how to proceed.
I've been with my girflriend, let's call her K since May 2009. K was widowed 9 months previous to when we got together, I had separated from my son's mother around about the same time and we just clicked, looking back on hindsight it was far too soon for her. The early years were difficult, K had clearly not gotten over the death her husband, ended up being off work for 2 long periods for depression, I stuck by her, but had my own difficutlies in that I had child access problems and my own father died, I also had a period off work due to stress. K has 2 children, I have 1, they got on really well, we don't live together.
When K recovered she decided she wanted a break from the relationship in 2011 so she could see what else was out there, I understood and accepted it though it hurt like hell and got on with it, we got back together at the end of the year but broke up against last year 2013 when she did not know what she wanted and now we are struggling again.
K's family have never really warmed to me, K's mother was very critical towards me right and rude from the start and I still don't get invited to family gatherings. Whenver K's parents are around I try not to be, K accuses me of not being socialable, I try my best, but it is hard when you know the people that are around hate your guts, K's husband seems to be on a pedastal and in their eyes I just don't match up to what he was. K also accuses me of being quiet around her friends, her friends though were the friends of her husband, I've rarely met them and it's kind of strange knowing that they were friends with her husband. K is a very strong woman and I get the feeling that she ran the show in her marriage.
The last few months have been pretty stressful for me, I am self-employed so when I have work I have to do it, I had difficulties with the mother of my son which have now been resolved but I've become really unsure about the future with K and I don't know what I want. I've tried explaining the line I have to walk with my son's mother but she would rather that I force every disagreement which would make things very difficult for my son.I've become increasingly anxious about the whole issue of our relationship, our sex life has gone the toilet and I find myself increasingly wanting to spend time in my own house rather than be at hers, which is hers and her deceased husbands house. We have discussed about whether or not we should live together, the reality is that my mid-week access to my son would probably not happen as K lives that much further away so I have said that I can't do it.
I feel like a I need some space, or at least to lift the pressure, all K does is critise me, to be honest I'm fed up with it, I would like someone to be able to talk to but right now I don't feel like I can talk to her, what should I do? I feel that this is going to come to a head this week and I am dreading it.
Thank you in advance.