should I contact her?
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| Sun, 05-02-2004 - 5:53pm |
I sincerely apologized to her and told her that if she didn't want to see my anymore I wouldn't contact her again. It has been 3 weeks of no contact between us.
Besides the anger management issues she also is a committmentphobe. She has a history of blowing up at people and then feeling resentment at them and not talking to them anymore. I know for fact that when she gets really pissed at someone and then vows to not talk to them again, she feels remorse for her actions over time.
Anyways, now that it has been 3 weeks, I would like to contact her. We had a very loving relationship with intense passion. I just want to talk to her and explain to her that I have made strides over the past three weeks to really think about my actions and to make sure that they don't happen again and to give me a chance to rebuild her trust(i.e. reading books and talking to a counselor).
I have talked to one of her close friends who told me that she thinks my ex is waiting for me to call, but I can't be sure. When we left things it seemed like she never wanted to talk to me again.
I'm wondering 1) should I call her, 2) should i write her a personal letter explaining that I understand the mistakes I made in the relationship and if she wanted to contact me I would appreciate that or 3)since I have already apologized to her should I leave it in her court to contact me if she wished.
I'm not one to dwell and wallow in self pity. I made a mistake, apologized for it and have made strides to ensure it doesn't happen again and to better myself.
Any thoughts?

I just want to let her know that I'm thinking about her and that I'm taking the necessary steps to improve my behavior. I'm not taking this lightly on my side and I want to ensure that this type of behavior doesn't happen again from me.
Maybe an email is the way to go. I'm willing to give her as much time as she needs, if that means forever, then I will just move on.
Hi ______
I hope your doing well.
Just wanted to let you know that I'm working on my "issues". I have been reading alot of books on my behavior and am realizing how hurtful it was towards you. I just wanted to let you know that I'm not taking this lightly at all and I hope to improve myself.
Anyways, I understand that you don't want to speak to me anymore and I respect that. If over time you change your mind, I would appreciate the opportunity.
Take care,
_____