Should I end it??
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Should I end it??
| Thu, 09-20-2007 - 11:45am |
My Bf and I have been together a year now. We live together and I love all that he is. He is 21, and I am 25 which some people would say is our first problem. I don't believe that age always matters. It varies from person to person.

Welcome to the board theduchess713,
::He also says he doesn't think of marriage and babies, he thinks of how he is going to get there. He thinks of what he has to do with his life to have those things, not so much dwelling on the having it.
::This is normal for most men. Before they want marriage/children they have to feel secure in their lives and like they are able to provide for this.
I don't think the age difference is really an issue. Don't let your friends make you doubt the relationship if you aren't having any problems.
I think you just need to give it a little longer.
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I'm going through the same thing right now.. So I completely understand where you are coming from! My bf is 28 and I'm 23.. I've known what I want since I was 6.. But he's not sure about wanting the marriage, and kids..
I'm gonna wait a couple months and see if anything changes. If not, as hard as it's going to be I'm going to have to move on..
So, IMHO I would just wait and see what happens in the next couple months. See if he opens up more about it..
Good Luck!
'He says he wants those things too but he doesn't really think about them and can not say when he will want them. He said he can't promise he will marry me in five years cause he doesn't know what will happen between now and then '
This is how 21 year olds do and should think. He is being honest.
'I am just scared to give him the vast majority of my childbearing years and him deciding down the road that he doesn't want these things and I will have missed out on my chance to have them.'
Seriously? I was 37 when I had my son and I have friends in their 40's having children. Not that that is the ideal situation but you have plenty of time to bear children.
You too could easily wake up in ten years and have very little in common. You may well be happier with someone who is closer to 30 and knows what he wants.