should I end it over him being racist?

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Registered: 01-19-2008
should I end it over him being racist?
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Sat, 01-19-2008 - 5:57pm

I need some Advice..Bad.. Has anyone been in this situation? I have been dating my Boyfriend for nearly a year now and we are suppose to be getting married in 8 weeks. We get along good..and laugh a lot..I love Him sooo much!!! My Kids are even more crazy about this man than I am...

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 01-19-2008 - 8:21pm
BTDT. He will not change this once you are married other than to get worse! If his family is this way, your children ARE going to be exposed to it. If he hasn't attempted to change, which he hasn't or it would already have stopped, it just won't change, EVER. Thirty one yo is NOT too old to learn to not do this. That's not just ignorance and stupidity, that's stubbornness and controlling behavior. I would be very concerned that this controlling behavior and his family background can soon lead to psychological and verbal abuse which often leads to physical abuse, as it did with my xh. This is, IMO, a sign of things to come. If he is unwilling to make adjustments now, he never will.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sun, 01-20-2008 - 3:20pm

Welcome to the board tracylk2,


It will get worse and your children will be exposed to his attitudes.