Should I ever trust again?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2007
Should I ever trust again?
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Wed, 11-21-2007 - 10:16am

First off, I guess you wonder why a man would post on this message board.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2007
Wed, 11-21-2007 - 10:31am

"I want you to" sounds like someone who confuses "to" and "too". What he meant to say was "I want you too"

You already know you can't trust her. Your problem is that you are not asking yourself the right question. "How can I trust her again?" is not going to help you; you already know the answer to that. What you REALLY need to do is figure out what you're going to do with the mistrust you already (justifiably) have.

Have you tried marriage counseling yet? (If you mention this in your post, I'm sorry I must have missed it) I think that at this point, if you're not seriously considering it, then this marriage may be beyond repair.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2007
Wed, 11-21-2007 - 10:54am
We are looking for a counselor.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-02-2007
Wed, 11-21-2007 - 11:57am
I'm sorry but something like this can not be just forgotten. It takes work to get over betrayal like this, and most of the time that means professional help. If she really wants to save this marriage, she will go to counseling with you and work on your marriage, but she has to be honest with the counselor...if she is not 100% committed to working on this, it will be a waste of time. Good luck
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 11-21-2007 - 1:26pm

Welcome to the board rnkforfun,


In my opinion, it's next to impossible to have a healthy relationship after betrayal if there hasn't been counseling.