Semahony, I'm so sorry for your loss.
With regards to your boyfriend, did you tell him that you would appreciate a bit of financial help towards the bills?
Thank you- no, I felt uncomfortable about it, especially because neither of us had been looking to get pregnant at this time, and we both have so few financial resources. But he was aware I had to cash out a retirement fund to pay the bill and saw that this caused me a lot of worry. I guess I wanted him to volunteer to pay some of it.
Communication is essential if we want to get our needs met.
Did you discuss the lack of insurance and finances with the financial office of the hospital?
You should probably use this experience as a wake up call.
Do you intend to make more of a committment with your BF, such as marriage?
Thank you everyone for your replies!
I tihnk he should pay for half personally. It stinks that you have to ask him for it, but then again since you had the resource (at least in his mind) to handle it, maybe he thought you didn't need/want him to.
But if you feel he is not interested in the relationship progressing, that is a different issue and you need to know where you stand
I think you just found out how "committed" he really is! What if you had a normal pregnancy and carried to term? Would he just have offered you "sympathy" and "sort of admitted it was his fault, too" and then turned his back?