should i forgive

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Registered: 07-08-2006
should i forgive
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Tue, 03-20-2007 - 10:44am
The other night i was talking to my boyfriend who is in florida and i'm in new york. He told me that his charger broke so his cell phone might die while we are on the phone. He also said he was watching tv so i assumed he was home. So when his phone did die I thought it was weird that he didn't call me from his house phone like he would normally do. So i called the house no answer twice and the next day i called him when i was on break at work his cell phone was still off. And still no answer at the house. Finally around six he calls me and i ask him where he was and he's trying to tell me he was home. I said I know your lying. He's like i lost my phone last night. I said u lost it at the house i don't believe you. And i asked him y he didn't answer the house phone he said it was broken. When i knew very well it wasn't. Then he finally ammited that he was in Daytona Beach and had a hotel party. This broke my heart. I can't believe he would lie to me. He says he lied because he knew it would upset me if i knew he was going. And on top of that he was staying one more night. I don't know what to do. I know he loves me but I don't think staying at a hotel and having hotel partys is what you should be doing when u are with someone no matter how far away thay are. I don't do those things. I don't do them because i know its not right. I was suppose to go visit him next month. But i don't know if i should. I was barely able to sleep last night and feel sick to my stomach because i have no idea what he is doing. I don't know if i should forgive him for lying, becuase how can i ever believe him again. Or should i just let go.
by the way we lived in new york together for three years he went to florida in january.
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Registered: 09-30-2005
In reply to: rajeenah
Tue, 03-20-2007 - 2:10pm

rajeenah,


It sounds like there two issues here. One is his lying to you. The second one is that you don't trust him. I don't know if the lack in trust came before or after his lying to you. Does he have a habit of lying to you? If he had told you what he was doing would you have trusted him?


Why did he move and are you going to be living together again anytime soon?