Should I go back.... again?
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| Sat, 10-09-2004 - 3:13pm |
I was at peace with the breakup for a while... our relationship had always had a lot of ups and downs. We're both very strong, stubborn people... when things were good they were really good, and when things were bad they were bad. I've dated quite a bit in the last year, although nothing serious. I've been at peace with being single, and my own situation has changed and I'm a much happier person... but the more people I date and get to know, the more I miss my ex. I've never felt remotely as comfortable with anyone as I did with him within minutes of meeting him, even my best friends. Most of my friends and family thought we were perfect for each other. There's a possibility he might be moving to my town relatively soon, and I can't help but wonder... with both of us in the same city, after kind of getting our lives back on track, if we wouldn't be able to get back to the relationship we used to have and have the strength to handle some of the tougher parts... is it just wishful thinking?

You ALREADY answered your own question with the words: "I've been at peace with being single, and my own situation has changed and I'm a much happier person!"
Doesn't this tell you something? Just because the man is moving back into town, what makes you think everything is gonna be "all better?" Things might start out okay, continue good for awhile...and then...BOOM....the sky starts to fall again!
To paraphrase an old Peaches & Herb song:
For some people getting "REUNITED" may feel very good.......but for others, it's can be the worst mistake a former couple can make!
Pianoguy---who is living proof that the latter scenerio applies and fortunately, escaped "just in time!"
As for the happiness bit... how I felt then and how I feel now is a result of me getting my own life straightened out, and had nothing to do with him. I've always thought it's hard to make a life with someone else if you can't even sort out your own; I thought I might be in a better place in my own life for a relationship.