should I go back or move on

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Registered: 11-10-2007
should I go back or move on
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Sat, 11-10-2007 - 2:45am

I met Aerial when she was 14 and I was 16. we fell in love instantly. after a few months I said the words I love you and she got scared and broke it off. I was devistated, but a few weeks later we got back together. However this started kind of a trend. I loved her more than life itself, and my love kept scaring her. See she was raped at a very early age and by her father and step father. she has hazzy memories that black out before she can comfirm any additional times. I understood what I was getting my self into when she told me and stayed through it all. Finnaly Her foster father made her break up with me when she was about 17. we didn't speak for a year and a half, but not for my lack of trying. her foster parents kept my calls from her. after the year and a half she decides to call me out of the blue. She was seeing someone, but they weren't treating her very well. mostly ignoring her, bailing out on plans for his friends, stupid stuff like that. One night at work she text me saying she really needed to talk to me. So on my break I call her and she tells me she made a very big mistake. She had sex with him and thought she was pregnant. I gave her the best advise I could and she calmed down and started to follow it. Time went on and she wasn't pregnant, but she dumped him anyway. She asked me to come out as a friend to see her so I did. The whole time I was there with her friends sitting with us she couldn't stay away from me. But I did what I thought was right and. then left. but she asked me to come out again. This time we were in her room and I tried to stick to the reason I went out there but she kissed me, and long story short

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Sat, 11-10-2007 - 6:24am

Hi Christopher.


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Sat, 11-10-2007 - 8:03pm
I thank you for your kind and helpful words. I do know that I want a family and children. and anything that will get me those, any job of any kind, would be more than worth it. I had to drag aerial along to anything fun, but when we got there we had an absolute blast. And she thanked me for doing it every time. I know that my love for aerial is one of the rarest, and could last forever and longer, but she does need help working through her issues. Can you suggest anything,one, or place? Somewhere cheap would be nice. Elisha is a wonderful person, but I don't feel myself drawn to her at all except as a freind. she is also the type to only date one person at a time. While I am FAR from some idiotic player, isn't dating for fun supposed to be less exclusive? Aerial was my first everything. I have never done this kind of thing before. I don't want to hurt anyone. Aerial is making really good progress, but only because she thinks that alone will win me back instantly. I want to know she will have my back, and not decide to turn on me again and again for personal gain.Or because she's scared. I have always been there even when she litteraly slaps me in the face. I have never hit her, never lied about anything serious. You know stuff like how dangerous my jobs have really been to me. She is getting sooooo much better on her own. but I don't want to promise anything to anyone yet. I'm not ready to jump into that pool yet, but I can't ever stop thinking about her everyday, all day long. she is the first person I want to tell my good news to and confess my bad days to. I can be a workaholic, and to balance it I have to go out and have fun. Don't have to spend money, just do something to have fun. I know what I want out of life, Happiness. And I'll do whatever it takes to get there. I have worked so many different types
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Sun, 11-11-2007 - 5:37am


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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sun, 11-11-2007 - 2:08pm

Welcome to the board furbob1,


xyro has given you some good advice.