should i just give up?
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| Sun, 03-16-2008 - 12:04pm |
I broke it off with a guy that I have been dating from work for about 3 months on Friday. I went into the converstion knowing that this is what I wanted because I had been unhappy for the last couple of weeks. We had only been together for about 3 months but things naturally progressed pretty quickly and on top of it we see eachother everyday at work.
For the past month he began to get really busy with a business he was trying to start up on the side. I never tried to get in the way or make him compromise his time. After going on a weekend break a couple weeks back he assured me that this is what he wanted. For the week after that everything seemed to be going great again. I got really angry with him on Wendesday morning after he asked me to go 40 mintues out of my way to come pick him up for work with no warning making us 40 minutes late for work. I began to feel like I was begining to get taken advantage of after he never seemed to be offering gas or toll money and thought that maybe at one point he did have genuine feelings for me and now he may not and could just be using me. So I initiated another talk with him on Wednesday and he took till Friday to finally make the time to talk with me. By this time I had my mind made up because I felt like any person who cared enough about me would have talked to me. The whole break up was kinda mutual and he just keept saying that he couldnt handle a serious relationship right now hes got too many other things going on and his heads a mess and that things happened to fast and it ruined things. However, it was mutual if not more on his part prusuing me.
Although I had my mind made up because I couldnt handle his lack of emotion and commnication and had the fear that he may be using me or just plain cheap. I think a part of me wanted him to say no i want this to work some how or try and not give up when i told him i was done. He said I had been wrong that he did really like me and appreciated me and that he was just busy with this business and other freelnce jobs on the side and couldnt handle it all like he thought he could.
Right now I am so confused as to what I want and he said he is too. He said that he enjoyed it and doesnt regret things one bit and i feel like some parts of me has regrets. I guess I liked him a lot more than I thought that I did because Im going nuts right now. I cant sleep, Ive got anxiety and the worst part of it all is I have to go to work with a smile on my face tomorrow and see him. Im not ready for this to be done and I just want to let him know that I can be there for him and support him. I dont know if its too late and I dont know what I should do in this situation. Im trying to play it cool and not contact him but as much as I have to put him out of my mind I am going to be forced to see him.
What do I do?

This sounds so much like my ex's behavior its SCARY.
update!!
well first thanks for the advice. luckily i figured out that contacting him would probably be the worst things to do at this point. so after getting my head together after two very emotion filled long days i decided that this isnt the worst thing its nt like he was this amazing guy. i also decided that i am a really giving person and a beautiful person inside and out and if he cant give me the appreciation and respect than Im not gonna be happy so why stay with someone like this who is so hot and cold. i knew i was going to be alright once i gained my mentally sainity back. so i went into work today with a positve attitude and a smile on my face and i was having a great day! my art director told me he was in love with a logo i did and picked 2 of mine to show the client...everything was going great and who cares if i heard from the guy who literally sits 15 feet away from me. and then at 11 am an IM pops onto my screen...it was him...how was your weekend? so i chatted with him a little he told me he was busy designing he didnt do much bla bla....we mostly talked about work stuff...nothing dealing with "us" and it went for about the entire day and he said he was leaving and gave me some positive words about work then quickly left the chat. so you ask what am i gonna do now. NOTHING! he diefinitly needs to get his mind right. there are so many things that i want to say that i wish i had during our conversation but im just gonna leave it for a time that is the right time-which may be never.