should i keep him?
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|Mon, 06-02-2003 - 11:02am|
Most of our fights dealt with spending time together. We are always together during the week. On weekends though he always had to see what his friends were doing. He would always say I was invited but then he would be going into a bad part of town, not want to bring me there and usually it was just the guys. After breaking up we talked and he admitted that he just doesn't want the obligation of a girlfriend. He wants to be able to go out with his friends. During the week he'd go anywhere with me but on the weekends he doens't want to miss something so he sees what the guys are doing and then decides what he wants to do. I understand where he is at right now. I to did the whole thing were I wanted to go out and do whatever I wanted and I could b/c I didn't have to "answer" to anyone. He is also afraid that I want the serious committment thing and am ready for marriage. This is because all of my friends are getting married. I think they are crazy and although would like to be with the guy I'm going to marry I don't want that ring right now. I still have to get settled with what I want in life first.
The strange thing to all of this is that we spent the whole weekend together. Friday we went out to lunch and then went out to one of the bars with his friends that night. We just hung out. On the ride home he was very mad but then started to cry. I asked him what was wrong (yes we both had been drinking). He told me he loved me and he was upset b/c he didn't deserve me and said he would only hurt me. He knew putting his friends first isn't right but said he can't help it. He knows one day he would get out of this stage but not now. He was really mad. He stayed over that night and woke up with me the next morning and gave me a kiss. That night he showed up at my family party and then went out with his friends but at the end of the night came over my house to sleep. Sunday night we watched a movie at his house. We joked that we are better friends.
The only thing that has changed in our relationship is that we didn't fight this weekend and we lost the title of boyfriend/girlfriend yet we still act it!
I just don't want to set myself up to be hurt. I don't know if I should cut all ties off with him (which would really hurt) or just take it day by day and see what happens? I told him as long as we are honest with each other and talk we should be fine. Am I in over my head or will I be alright?