Should I keep on trying? Love hurts!!
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Should I keep on trying? Love hurts!!
| Sat, 01-10-2004 - 10:49am |
I was just wondering if you think my relationship is worth saving. We have been together for 2 years and have a wonderful 4 month old son. I just found out that my SO had been cheating on me for a couple months (not sure how long exactly). Anyway, he has since ended it with her, but I just don't know if we should stay together. And if we should, how? Where do I begin? Thanks, Amy

hi amy and hugs... i am sorry for your hurt.
you don't give alot of info so its hard to know what to answer. I don't know if you should stay with him or not - it depends on a lot of factors. in general, after there is cheating in a realationhip -
well, look, again - its not enuf, IMHO, to have him say to you "i am with you". and even staging that phone call to the GF - i mean, honestly, how can you REALLY TRUST HIM? he cheated on you. then he said it was over -and it wasnt. how can you know that he is not STILL lying?
that is why i suggest you get yourselves to therapy. IF (and this is a big if) he really wants to be with you, IF he really wants to put that woman in the past and move on, then he has to agree to this. and IMHO - that should be YOUR bottom line - you go to therapy as a couple, you work thru this (and other) issues
good luck