Should I let go
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Should I let go
| Fri, 01-09-2004 - 1:27pm |
I am in a very difficult situation and need some advice. I met this wonderful man about 9 months ago. When we met we started spending a lot of time together, we have a lot in common and love spending time together. He is 33 and I am 26. Our first couple of months were great. In August I found out that I was pregnant, he was really excited, it is both of our first children. Everyone seems to be happy for us. Then a couple of weeks after I found out I was pregnant, his ex-girlfriend came back in to the picture. They were together for a couple of year. He now wants to give her another chance to see if things are real or not, the way he puts it. She had told him before to let go and move on and then when he had done that, she pops back up with I really want to try to make things work. He is still a very big part of my life, but this is very difficult for me. My pregnancy has been very stressfull. I am having problems with my blood pressure. I try to explain to him how this is taking it's toll on me, but he still feels the need to see her knowing how it makes me feel. I love him very much but just don't know when to draw the line. And on top of that SHE is always there, at family events and everything. Being around her makes me very uncomfortable. I want him to be apart of mine and our childs life but am unsure how much more I can take and whether or not I am in a no win situation. Please any advice would help.

As hard as it is, I think you need to break things off with him and treat him *only* as your child's father.
It's very hard to let go, know you deserve better and then say what needs to be said: I have to do what is right for me and in the best interest of my health and that of our baby's, so because I love you, I'm willing to let you go figure out what you want. However, that doesn't mean that you get to have both of us, so until you decide if you want to be in a relationship with me, I do not want to see you anymore. I'll keep you posted on my health and dr visits if you like (via email or whatever is less painful for you) but please don't call me.
It will hurt, you will grieve, but why should he be allowed to sting you along?
Carrie