Should I let him go??
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| Tue, 03-30-2004 - 3:20pm |
Now, onto problem #2... whoever said money is the root of all evil, they sure hit the nail on the head. I am a nurse and work A LOT of hours. I do make good money. He is a supervisor for UPS and also makes good money... the problem here is that he has not been to work in over 2 weeks because of all the things that have been going on with his family. So, this month I shelled out about 1000 dollars for our rent and utilities. Oh, by the way, we live together.
On top of that, our sex life has been non existent. He says that he just doesn't feel like it. He doesn't know what is wrong with him, he just isn't in the mood. Isn't that supposed to be my line?? But, on a serious note.. I can't stand it. I read a stupid article in Cosmo that said, "If he isn't making love to you, he is making it to someone else." So, it has been almost 2 weeks since he has touched me. Sex has never been an issue with us, but now... it has made me completely insecure and jealous. I admit to accusing him, even though there is no proof that he has ever done anything.
Like I said earlier, I work a lot of hours, and the last thing I want to do when I get home is clean. I hate to do the dishes, I hate to do laundry, I hate to run the sweeper, I do it... I just don't like to. Lately, I have no motivation. I just don't want to do it. So, when he comes home from spending time with his dad, and something isn't cleaned... he bitches. The last time I checked though, I was not his mom or maid, I am his girlfriend.
So, as you can see... there is a lot going on right now. Last night we talked about breaking up and him moving out of our place. I don't want that to happen. I love him so much. I honestly believe that anyone who has never wanted to kill their mate and run like hell, has never been in love. Is him moving out the best answer, or is this something that we will be able to get through?? Thanks so much for reading.

As for the sex, give it some time. You want closeness as it feels comforting. He'd rather be alone, so he's not looking for comfort. I've also heard that men withdraw sexually when depressed.
::So, when he comes home from spending time with his dad, and something isn't cleaned... he bitches.
Next time say to him: hon, we are both stressed, are you really mad about this not being cleaned or mad about something else?
Moving isn't necessarily the best answer. Would he be willing to go to couple's counseling to help you both agree to a plan to make things better between you?
Carrie