Should I or should I not?...

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Registered: 10-04-2008
Should I or should I not?...
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Wed, 10-15-2008 - 1:15am
I was seeing a guy a couple of months ago and we kind of ended it because it was a case of "too much too soon"
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Registered: 02-20-2007
Wed, 10-15-2008 - 9:07am

He's trying to tell you that he wants to be in a casual relationship with you and probably date other people.

It's normal to wonder if someone still thinks of you, that's a very very tempting situation and I've been there before too many times. NONE of those times turned out well - the guys in question were cold, or never responded. You think you might feel satisfied to get in contact but in reality it will hurt more, and prolong getting over it.

You can't have been with this guy too long for the breakup to be so difficult. I have a feeling that you're not over this yet because you have no other prospective men in your life right now. Minimize your free time - go out and do something, find your friends, go for a bike ride, head to the gym, pick up a hobby. You're allowing yourself to think of this guy too much. NO CONTACT is the only way to take this. It's over, give yourself the closure you need. He doesn't want you, no matter how much YOU want HIM you can't convince him to want you back.

You should consider yourself done with him.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 10-15-2008 - 5:54pm

Welcome to the board truthhurts2008,


Are you ok with having a casual, non-exclusive, dating relationship with him?

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Registered: 08-30-2008
Wed, 10-15-2008 - 6:48pm
Let him go.
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Registered: 10-04-2008
Wed, 10-15-2008 - 9:19pm

Im not sure about

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Registered: 10-04-2008
Wed, 10-15-2008 - 9:30pm
Actually i've been pretty occupied lately.. busying myself with
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Registered: 08-30-2008
Wed, 10-15-2008 - 11:11pm
well, if he has no time for his brother then something is definitely up with him.
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Registered: 10-04-2008
Thu, 10-16-2008 - 1:00am

Well he is working alot (i think he may be working overtime too), he lives on his own so he has to support himself, pay rent, bills, etc. He told me he needs to work and that he wants to have a family someday so he wants to make money so that in the future he can support his family and he also has to support his parents which is also a lot of pressure on him.

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Registered: 08-30-2008
Thu, 10-16-2008 - 1:58am
If he hasnt responded to texts or emails then I dont know what else you can do, short of just showing up at his house and talking to him face to face and just saying what is on your mind.
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Registered: 10-04-2008
Thu, 10-16-2008 - 11:04pm

As of now, i dont mind if he isnt available emotionally and physically because i am at a pretty busy part of my life right now too.. i have loads of schoolwork as i am a pre-med student, so i dont have all the time in the world either.


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