Should I pay towards the rent?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-03-2010
Should I pay towards the rent?
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Mon, 08-22-2011 - 6:40am

I've been with my girlfriend for about a year and a half.

I have a place of my own but spend nearly all of my time around

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-18-2009
Tue, 08-23-2011 - 8:54am

alwaysaknight, that's an interesting username. Here's the thing about people who "take advantage"... They don't usually do it maliciously and they often don't intend to do it. People who try to take advantage of you do so because they honestly believe that they are entitled to whatever they can ask for.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-03-2010
Tue, 08-23-2011 - 10:02am

Thanks. Yes, I think after due consideration that I will say no. It's going to be hard but I believe it's right.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2009
Tue, 08-23-2011 - 11:22am

Her knowledge of psychology?

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-15-2008
Tue, 08-23-2011 - 11:40am

Hi alwaysaknight, IMO it is a matter of what you are willing to deal with in the relationship.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 08-23-2011 - 12:44pm

Your GF does have some kind of odd ideas.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-29-2002
Tue, 08-23-2011 - 2:47pm

Is there a possibility of an outside influence in regards to her new request of you?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2009
Wed, 08-24-2011 - 10:27am

I probably have a dissenting opinion, which isn't unusual.

How long have you been spending all your time there?

Did you say that you "suspect" she's paying more for food, and recall that you made a pasta dish last week?

I can kinda understand her view of your saying "fair" if it hasn't been fair all this time to her.

And I think she might be right on her view that it should be natural.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-18-2009
Wed, 08-24-2011 - 10:48am

"As to why she's hiding you from her ex... I agree with you that nothing is probably happening between them.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-03-2010
Wed, 08-24-2011 - 11:39am

@cat.alley
It's great to hear a different opinion. Especially a dissenting one!

For the last six months I have spent almost every afternoon/night/weekend at her place. So I can understand how she feels that I'm living there in the fullest sense of the phrase.

I agree that certain things should come naturally and believe that -- for the most part -- they have. For example, whenever we have been out together I've always attempted to pay for the groceries or contribute something; and most times I have.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2009
Wed, 08-24-2011 - 11:54am
I just want to correct that I didn't say "most" of your living expenses. I said "much". I'm pretty sure bills at your house, that you stay at one night a month, are pretty low.