should i put up with this?
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should i put up with this?
| Wed, 03-14-2007 - 5:59am |
I am 26 years old Ive been married to my husband for almost 6 years now. We have a beautiful 2 year old daughter together. Our marriage has been rocky for about 2 and a half years now. My husband is deployed overseas right now, but he volenteered to go. He's basically been overseas since our daughter was born. The thing is he wants to volenteer to go overseas again as soon as he gets back. He says he has to because he needs a job he has to put food on the table. I've given him many options so that he could stay home with his family instead of leaving. But he doesnt want to do that. Another thing is that he never askes about our daughter. So i brought that up and he said it was because i always just told him about her. I did that because he never askes. So I stoped telling him anything about her its been 4 months and hes not asked a single thing about our daughter. Another thing the entire time we've been together in any argument we've ever had hes never once told me he was sorry for anything hes ever done wrong in the relationship. He always tries to make it out to be my fault. So I gave him an ultamitum I told him if he decides to leave again after he gets back this summer then I want a divorce! I tried to talk about it with him but he refuses to. Im thinking that if he really loves me and wants to be with his family he will stay. if not he wont. So Im not sure if that was a good idea to push him like that? So I guess I'm asking if he does leave should i stay? Or is this whole marriage just a waiste of time and i should end it now? I need some good advice here. Your help much appreciated!

Welcome to the board kellibpe,
I personally don't think I could be in a relationship with someone that didn't care enough about their own child to ask how they were doing. It seems like he volunteers to be deployed so he doesn't have to be home. I think if he does live again than you know that he doesn't want to be in the marriage.
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