Should I start weaving the web of lies.?
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| Mon, 03-17-2008 - 3:28pm |
First a quick summary. Fiance and I recently engaged last month, have been together for over 7 years. Before then we were friends. During our first months together Fiance discovered that Ex Girlfriends youngest at the time, believed to be Fiance's second child, was indeed NOT HIS CHILD. FF through the years, child has little to no contact with us. His Biological family is in the picture including Dad.
Fiance never told his family about the deceit. And my family met Fiance as just having 1 son. Since we didn't introduce him to my family right away. Never the less EXG has always tried to push this child who is now 8 unto Fiance and his family. Fiance's son lives with us has now for several years. EXG pays 0 child support and still demands Fiance's help for when she plans "outings" on the times that she decides to pick him up, about once a month if he is lucky, NO court order or legal papers exist.
To the point, I have always opposed the atempts of the EXG to take advantage of Fiance's good intentions and his family. Always calling her out on her guilt trips and crap. So to the point. To keep appearances, Fiance told me he wants EXG son at our wedding, not necessarily in the wedding, but attending it. When I asked what am I supposed to tell my friends and family who will definately see and wonder why this child they have never heard of is calling you dad. Yes he still calls him Dad, his real dad too. His response was " I really don't care what you tell them. You can tell them anything you want".
I am hurt that 1;he doesnt care about me having to "lie" to my family and friends. 2, that he despite all the troubles this woman has caused with this deceit doesn't end it once and for all. 3: that he insists on ruining what should be a great day for both of us. Fiance, doesn't visit child, child doesn't visit us, just since the truth hasn't been out, to everyone in his family he is just a "bad father" to one, and a "great father" to the other.
How can

Welcome to the board scndtymaround,
Wow, and he thinks what you say or don't say will ruin the big day?
Welcome to the board scndtymaround,
Wow, this is a strange situation indeed. I think you should just tell your family the truth about the ex-girlfriend and the other child. If you went with lying to your family, you would only end up feeling bad about it.
Did he say why he wants this other kid to be there?
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