should I stay or go?????

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2004
should I stay or go?????
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Fri, 03-26-2004 - 10:50pm
I have been dating a man for six months. he actually asked me to mary him the first week. we want to marry in november. Problem is we had a fight. he was suppose to be back from a trip on tuesday. I ran into him the friday night before. he had no idea where I was.

He said he wanted to suprise me I thought he lied. he walked off and didnt call me for 3 days. called me on monday for some information in my computer. called on wed to say he would be off early. finally called at 6pm to say he was going to dinner with his friend. did I mention we hadnt seen each other since feb 5? hung up on me when i said you dont want to see me do you? thurs called at noon to see if we could get together later. told him to call me at 4pm ...He did not call at 4pm. he has not called since it is friday the following week. (8 days).... I am about to give up??????
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-01-2003
Fri, 03-26-2004 - 10:57pm
similiar story here... ex and i dated 10 months, he gets distant and one night when i said "i don't think you want to see me" he said nothing and handed the phone over to someone else. exactly like your situation.

its obvious that they are confused! as for me, this is not the first time, we've tried, but same problem comes up everytime and so now he's my EX.

just think about what you want in a relationship, and what are you getting out of this one?

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-02-2003
Sat, 03-27-2004 - 11:44am

well for starters you don't agree to marry someone you have "known" for a week. obviously- you didn't know him at all, and now you are starting to know him. and you don't like what you see - he lies to you, you plays stupid mind games, he leaves you hanging in space ---- why on earth would you date someone like this, never mind marry him?


there are good people out there, you do NOT have to put up with this childish behavior.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2004
Sun, 03-28-2004 - 4:42pm
dont really understand how I am playing mind games when I am willing to talk things out. by the way had a great date last night.... with someone new....going out again tonight.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-02-2003
Mon, 03-29-2004 - 12:38pm
sorry, typo, i meant of course the HE is playing mind games.... but never mind, it looks like you are moving on?