Should I stay or should I go

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Registered: 10-13-2009
Should I stay or should I go
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Thu, 03-15-2012 - 5:33pm

I have a question on what I should do about my I guess experienced have a son together and have been together for 3 here about a year ago I find out he is sleeping with my best friend when he has denied before many times and he blames the sleeping together on me asking so much.Now he tells me he is not sleeping with her anymore they are just god friends.They go out with other all the time

LeshaP
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Registered: 09-17-2005
Thu, 03-15-2012 - 6:02pm
Do I have this right? He cheats on you with your best friend and then says it's YOUR fault that he cheated? And that he doesn't want to choose between you? And you're wondering if he's still cheating? Wake up call - of course he's still cheating and yes, you should leave. This guy is a total loser, cares nothing about your feelings and is not committed to you, nor will he ever be.
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Registered: 05-20-2009
Thu, 03-15-2012 - 11:50pm

Why does he have to make a choice?

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Registered: 11-12-2008
Sun, 03-18-2012 - 1:40am
I agree with fissatore, he ruined the trust in the relationship. you can never get that back. Men have a way of telling you what you want to believe. It hurts less that way. But, if he doesn't respect you enough to drop her after he's slept with her, then he obviously has no remorse for his actions, and is probably still cheating. There is a reason he is keeping her in his life. Sorry you have to make that decision. Do whats right for your child before it causes him any long term issues.
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Registered: 05-18-2009
Tue, 03-20-2012 - 8:37am

LEAVE.

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Registered: 10-13-2009
Wed, 03-21-2012 - 9:15am

Thank you to everyone who posted a comment.I ended up leaving him he did finally after months of cheating and lying come out and say he wasn't dropping her because they are still together and have been since I found out, I figured as much.He tried to add a

LeshaP
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Registered: 09-21-2011
Wed, 03-21-2012 - 9:49am

Good for you - stay strong and take care of yourself