Should I Stay or Should I Go....

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-15-2004
Should I Stay or Should I Go....
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Thu, 06-24-2004 - 12:01am
I'm a month pregnant. By a guy I'm starting to think I barely know. He's in denial always saying, it's a hormone thing, you're not pregnant. He's still leaving me home alone all the time. Expects me to do EVERYTHING. Wash all the clothes everyday, wash the dishes, cook, train the dogs... Anyone who has been pregnant before, knows it takes alot of energy out of you. I've tried talking to him, it doesn't work. He won't talk to me. when I ask what's wrong, he snaps "Nothing" when I know there is. I'm not sure if I should move out into my mom's or just try to stay for the baby's sake... please... someone... help!!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-24-2004
Thu, 06-24-2004 - 3:57pm
What a terrible feeling - do not stay for the baby's sake. Ultimately, you want your child to see you in a loving relationship, not one where you are taken for granted. He has no right to question your pregnency (assuming of course, you got tested). There is someone out there who will love both you and your baby and treat you with the respect you deserve.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-26-2003
Thu, 06-24-2004 - 8:59pm

Hugs to you.....


If nothing else, that baby knows your stressed right now, so dont stay in a situation you dont wanna be in, because your not doing that child any favors. Second, If you are having a difficult time this early in the pregnancy, have you considered going to the docotrs to see if there is any supplements you can be taking(assuming you already are on pre natal vitamins)?


Having never been pregnant, the only thing I can give you is moral support.....and you have plenty of that here on this board...


Keep your head up and be strong!!!


Congrats on the pregnancy and keep in touch


 

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2004
Thu, 06-24-2004 - 9:54pm
Move into your mom's for your sake and for the baby's sake. Staying with him is not good for anyone right now.

Don't go back until after the baby. He can see you in the mean time but is not worthy of living together or overnight visits without a major overhaul. Or ring!

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2003
Thu, 06-24-2004 - 10:59pm
Did you just find out? Did you take a pregnancy test?

Are you working and is he?

I am just wondering if that is the set up- you are the one who cooks and cleans and he works.

Talk to him about the effect that pregnancy has on the body and how you two can work together. Get him to go with you to your first Dr appointment. Ask him if he wants to be involved in the baby's life. You will not do the baby any favors by staying with him if he remains in denial and doesn't treat you well.