Should I stay or should I go?
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|Fri, 01-17-2014 - 8:56am|
I started seeing my SO (or exSO) back in Oct. 2012. Things were going well, etc. then in July we had a argument which lead to me needing space. He complied and reached out to me again in October 2013. Missing him like crazy, I took him up on the offer after he asked me if I will give it another "go". We started out basically where we left off with regards to seeing each other, calling, texting, etc. Now I think he regrets that decision.
He's been kind of distant lately so I called him out on it. I asked him what is wrong as he's been kind of "blah" lately. He responded back that "you're fine, right now he needs me to be his friend more than anything, he's doing this by his own design, everything will fall back into place, and "what will be will be"". I told him, "that is fine if he needs to take a step back, which said it is what he needs for now. I have always been your friend and friends talk, not go silent." From there, I told him "everything is okay in the end; if it isn't okay, then its not the end." He replied back "it's not the end" and I told him, "I hope not." I let him know that if he ever needs to talk, I'm all ears, which he responded "I know that."
Little background: he's a few years older than me with young kids and I do not have kids. I know he's been taking on a boatload of new stuff at work, opening a new development site, etc. I wouldn't consider myself "that girl" that constantly bugs him, etc. For ex., I won't hear from him all day so I'll shoot him a text saying "hi" and hoping everything is good. He told me his kids are with him, so I told him just to get back with me after he gets them settled down in bed, etc. That's fine. I don't want to take him away from that.
I just don't know what is going on as he won't tell me. He mentioned he's been having problems at work and I asked him if he wanted to talk. He kindly told me he can't discuss it right now, but he eventually will. I left it at that. I don't want to push him to discuss things he isn't or can't discuss.
My question is: should I wait, or say see ya buddy if he ever contacts me again. I haven't heard from him in a few days, and I'll be darned if I contact him first. I'm trying not to be hypocritical as he gave me my space when I asked for it, but on the otherhand, I at least gave him the reasons for why I needed my space. When we rekindled, we never talked about the prior fight. Maybe that is part of the problem? Not only that, I don't know how to be his friend (if that makes sense).