should i stay or should i go?
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should i stay or should i go?
| Wed, 10-01-2008 - 1:02pm |
newbie to ivillage and looking for compassionate and understanding people with objective point of views.
| Wed, 10-01-2008 - 1:02pm |
Welcome to the board manoffaith,
Sounds like due to her fear and being afraid, she either wants her cake and eat it too or she's weaning herself off of you.
A condition for staying together should be marriage counseling.
Given where you two are at, I think you need to take some time and think seriously about what's best for you and for your children. Don't factor her wants into that equation. Both of you should be doing this and then see if what each of you wants individually matches up with each other. Personally, I would probably would not want to live under the same roof while this evaluation process was going on.
I do think that it is better for children to be raised in a broken home where the parents have gone on to find happiness then for them to be raised in a single home where the parents are miserable and broken on the inside.
It's not easy. I'd suggest finding a therapist or counselor to help you think about the issues and make the best decision.
Good luck!
Welcome to the board manoffaith,
I agree that if you decide to stay you need marriage counseling and the agreement that you are working on the marriage.
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In regards to emotional affair, why would she say "i don't mind go ahead and meet him, i'll introduce him to you".
Unfortunately, this says it all:
Two things about your post that jumped out at me.
1. Your wife is still having an affair.
2. The two of you have every excuse in the book on why the two of you have behaved badly toward each other.
I think that you should perhaps try the Marriage Builders website. Lots of good information there and people that have been in the same place you are and a lot worse.