Should I Stay Or Should I Go?

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-24-2008
Should I Stay Or Should I Go?
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Thu, 07-24-2008 - 6:27pm
I met this guy and he is a really really great man. We have so much in common and I feel a real connection with this guy. He said that he has never felt this way about anyone and I have never felt this way about anyone too. BUT he said to me that he is bi-sexual. That made me worrie a bit that this might get in the way. I have no problem with it as long as he does not crave the other side I guess. Its like not only do I have to worrie about females I have to worrie about males too! So if your a bi-sexual guy do you ever see yourself being happy with a woman for the rest of your life. And girls who have dated a bi guy did you relationship work?
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-11-2003
Thu, 07-24-2008 - 8:15pm
I get the feeling from your post that you have issues around trust that have absolutely nothing to do with his bisexual orientation. Bisexuality doesn't lead to infidelity.
I believe that there are a couple of things that you should do to help yourself and one is to ask him questions about his past relationships...what's the longest he's been with someone, what is he looking for in a relationship, etc.
Whether or not you like the answers to those questions, I would still work on developing trust, trust of yourself and others. If you have had a string of cheaters in your past, stop and examine why this is happening to you. What was the draw to these guys? What are the red flags that you are (subconsiously) ignoring?
Good luck.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-24-2008
Thu, 07-24-2008 - 8:38pm
Thanks for your help! I asked him questions like that already and they were pretty good answers. I do have trust issues because of past relationships. See the guys I go for are normally really nice and sweet during the first couple of months and then it just turns out for the worst. Anyway guys have pretty good game.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 07-25-2008 - 1:48pm

Welcome to the board veganchick (me too),


Until you resolve your trust issues, I fear anyone you become involved with that the relationship won't be what you want or need it to be.


For me, I wouldn't date someone that was bi.