Should I stay or should I go???

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-25-2003
Should I stay or should I go???
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Thu, 12-13-2007 - 7:46pm

DSO and I have been together SIX YEARS.


DSO married #1 in his 20's.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 12-13-2007 - 10:13pm

Okay, you're in your early 40s so I assume you don't plan on having children together. You are committed to each other as evidenced by buying the real estate. Do you really need the wedding ceremony to be happy? Do you think it will change anything between you, alter or better your relationship in any real way? If so, how?


Would you be happier without him at all than with him without marriage? Make a choice. Decide to leave him or stay with him. If he is dragging his feet on the marriage thing, and that is what matters to you most, then leave him and find someone willing to marry you. Or, if it is him in particular that you want,

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2005
Fri, 12-14-2007 - 4:12pm

Welcome to the board 67diva,


Is getting married or not important enough to you to ruin an other wise good relationship? Do you think you could be happy if you never got married and things just stayed the same? Do you live together?


Some people can be perfectly happy together and never get married.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 12-14-2007 - 4:14pm

Welcome to the board 67diva,


I had the same question basically....with or without marriage are you happy where you are, with him and the relationship?






iVillage Member
Registered: 03-25-2003
Sat, 12-15-2007 - 1:56pm

Thanks for the responses.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-13-2007
Sat, 12-15-2007 - 10:12pm

I myself wouldn't have agreed to purchase property with someone I wasn't married to, for obvious reasons. You simply do not have the same entitlements with someone you're merely 'shacking up' with, nor will you receive the same mutual benefits. Basically, you don't have a lot to stand on in your current

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-25-2003
Sat, 12-15-2007 - 11:38pm

Thanks, I appreciate the honesty.