Should i stick around???

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Registered: 08-13-2003
Should i stick around???
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Wed, 02-18-2004 - 10:28pm
Okay, first let me say that i have been with my boyfriend for almost three years now. We are in our senior year of college and he is very stressed. He has alot of work to do and works alot as well. He told me that he wanted to take a break from each other a couple of months ago so I said okay. I love him more than i've ever loved anyone and i want things to be how they used to be. We still hang out everyday and say i love you and everything seems to be like it used to be but the relationship isn't as intense as it used to be. This kind of upsets me but i guess it's what he wants. I know he's not going anywhere and that i'm the only girl he has feeligns for and i wouldn't cheat on him either but it bothers me to not have the official title of boyfriend/girlfriend. Does this make sense to anyone?? Should i let him go or wait around for things to settle down. I feel like maybe he will never want the relationship to be how it was if he's still getting to spend time with me whenever he wants and getting whatever he wants. I hope this makes sense. Any advice is appreciated. Thanx girls. :)
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Sun, 02-22-2004 - 2:22pm
bump


Carrie

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Sun, 02-22-2004 - 4:10pm
I'm confused about your status. You say you're taking a break from being a couple, that you don't have the bf/gf status, but then you say you hang out every day and say ILY and you wouldn't "cheat on him." How can you cheat on someone you're not in a relationship with?

It's good you feel confident that he doesn't want to be with anyone else, however, please beware. No matter how well you know a person or think you know them, you are not in his head, reading his thoughts and feelings. I don't understand why a person would want to take a break from his relationship if the relationship was with the only girl he wanted to be with. To me that's illogical. There's a reason he wanted to take a break, a reason he wanted to shed the bf/gf status...what is it?

Many many people in relationships are busy and stressed, but it doesn't make them need a break from it. In fact, just the opposite. During the busiest and most stressful times I think many people in good relationships lean on one another for support.

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Sun, 02-22-2004 - 4:12pm
I've seen you post this before, itwinflame. What does it mean?
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Sun, 02-22-2004 - 7:45pm
BUMP? Meaning bumping the post to the top of the list so that hopefully someone with advice will reply to the original posters question.


Edited 2/22/2004 7:48:03 PM ET by itwinflame


Carrie