Should I tell of affair?
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Should I tell of affair?
| Thu, 09-09-2004 - 12:52am |
I had an affair during the first five years of my marriage. 15 years have past and I do not know if I should confess to my spouse of this affair. Can you please help me with this.

What is your motive for wanting to tell?
Of what benefit would it be to anyone if you told?
Good luck!!
What is it that prompts you to want to do this now? This is a very important questions. Are you having difficulties in your marriage? Is this a way to shake things up, or give you a reason for leaving? Are you wanting to have another affair? You must realize that this will certainly cause upset should you now, after all these years, bring it up. I suggest you look into your heart carefully and see why you want to do it. If you are carrying guilt with you, rather than just blurt it out, it might be better to talk it all first with a trained counsellor so you can handle the guilt and also be prepared for the consequences of telling your husband.
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1) maybe your guilt is over powering you and you feel to ease it off you , you must tell
2) you are scared of doing it again and found it to easy to be sly and deceptfull and by telling your partner you think it might prevent this happening again.
i am not saying it is right not telling but sometimes it is for the best.It won't be you who is hurting think of your partner.
good luck and best wishes
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