Should I tell on him?

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Should I tell on him?
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Wed, 11-14-2007 - 6:15pm

My husband and I have been married a few months now and we are expecting our first baby in March. His brother is the problem.


His brother is very intelligent, well spoken, habitual liar and alcoholic. He has been in a relationship with Karen for about a year and a half who I use to be really good friends with. Since they got together, he has pinned us against eachother several times by lieing to save his butt. If he doesn't want to do something he blames her, if he

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 11-14-2007 - 6:26pm

Welcome to the board txpeach182,


While I wouldn't say tell on him, because chances are Karen wouldn't believe you anyway.... I would be very vocal and upfront with both guys "I will not lie for you. If asked a direct question, I will not lie." Period.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 11-14-2007 - 6:29pm

I agree with Carrie.

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Registered: 12-11-2006
Wed, 11-14-2007 - 6:37pm

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Wed, 11-14-2007 - 6:58pm

I've got to say... Women are perceptive. She may be stupid, but she's probably not blind; I'm guessing that she knows he's a liar. But she's also probably attached to him because well-spoken, charming men have a distinct power over weak-willed women.

My advice? Don't tell her, but as has been said already here, don't lie for him. If he's spreading his lies, leave the room. Say "I don't really want to take part in this information" and just go somewhere else. Sometimes ignorance is bliss. If you don't know what he's lying about then you have no secrets to keep.

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Registered: 11-13-2007
Wed, 11-14-2007 - 11:43pm

tell her the truth.