Should i tell or keep it a secert and lie?

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Registered: 06-07-2011
Should i tell or keep it a secert and lie?
Tue, 06-07-2011 - 6:12pm

Hi I don't want to lie and that hurts, but telling the truth, that is hard. I am a male and wear panties from time to time, I know crazy right? Well I am not gay, my girlfriend of 2 yrs found a pair of panties in my clothes, and of course she thinks I am cheating, since i didnt tell her the truth. Does anyone have advice, please. thanks

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Tue, 06-07-2011 - 6:15pm

Why not just model them for her. Might turn her on. : )

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 06-07-2011 - 11:07pm

Well I would have the exact opp. reaction from peacyma--I would be totally turned off.

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Tue, 06-07-2011 - 11:37pm

If it's something you're ashamed of, then you should stop doing it.

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Wed, 06-08-2011 - 5:25am

above all, I believe we should be ourselves when dating.

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Registered: 06-07-2004
Wed, 06-08-2011 - 10:13am

you can't not me who you are for your whole relationship with someone, so it's time to start coming clean about who you are and if she can't accept it, then so be it, you will have to move on and find someone who can accept it.