Should I wait it out?
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Should I wait it out?
| Tue, 09-07-2004 - 10:57pm |
I bet you all have heard this scenario a million times before - she wants kids, and he doesnt. I just need a little bit of advice in this department. My situation is unlike many typical marriages or relationships...first of all I am young, and secondly, we are not married. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and we live together. Things between us are great, we enjoy doing the same things, love spending time together, both have high ambitions and dreams we hope to one day accomplish, and we adore eachother. There is only one thing in the way, in the future - I want to have children - my boyfriend is three years older than me and DEAD SET against it. Is there hope for our relationship? He says I am way to young to be thinking of these kinds of things, considering I am still in college....but I mean, this is a part of my dreams - to eventually marry and have a family. And my friends say that he is immature and will change his mind and come around. I don't want to lose a great relationship over something that seems so distant and far away from me right now, but I can't help to think that regardless of the amount of time that passes by - my feelings will never change, and his probably won't either. Should this be a deciding factor of a relationship? Is it worth holding on to something that doesnt have the full potential you had originally hoped for? Please give me some advice, I would really appreaciate it. Thanks alot.

I can see both sides of this......yes, it may be early- as in you are still in school and should be concentrating on such. But, being together for two years now, you dont want to "waste" time (for lack of a better word), when you could be with someone that will have the same goals in life as you.
There is a chance that he could change his mind.....but its about as big as the chance he has to stay with his opinion...Chance you want to take?Thats for you to answer. Having children, and making the decision to do so are two HUGE decisions to make. You are choosing to be responsible for anoher life......not a choice to be taken lightly.
Best wishes,