Should I wait it out???
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Should I wait it out???
| Thu, 03-25-2004 - 11:19am |
I've been in a relationship for just over a year and a half now. I am 28 years old and my partner is a year younger. Last night we discussed the "future" of our relationship or if there is one. I feel I am getting to the point in my life where I would like to settle down and start a family of my own, preferably with him. He said he doesn't know that he wants that and if so when he would, but ideally it would be great to have that with me. I said that I would expect to start the next phase of my life within the next two years. He said he doesn't know. I'm at a cross roads and don't know if I should end things and look elsewhere or if I should continue to optomistically stick it out, only to find out years down the road, it is never going to happen. I am in love with this man and admire so much about him, but it doesn't seem like we have common relationship goals. I'm playing an emotional tug of war with myself and don't know what the right way to proceed is. Any thoughts or words of advice would be greatly appreciated!

In my opinion a year and a half to leave for this reason is too early in the relationship.
James
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You have to decide if it's worth waiting for you....sorry you have to go through this.
Carrie
You should also be ready and willing to answer to the same conversation. The answers shouldn't specifically include him - they should be about your goals, plans and directions. This is far more than getting married and having kids - its a statement of life's plan.
Edited 3/25/2004 10:03 pm ET ET by spice.man