should i = yes or no

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Registered: 05-21-2004
should i = yes or no
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Fri, 05-21-2004 - 2:34am
caught my now x-girlfriend of 8 months cheating on me. Caught her with another guy. Should i call her out on her actions or just walk away without saying a word?

What should i say if i was to call her out?

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Fri, 05-21-2004 - 7:45am

do you KNOW for a fact that she was cheating on you? or are these rumors, or suspicions.


if you KNOW - then what is the question? do you want to be with someone who cheats on you?

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Fri, 05-21-2004 - 8:31am
If you caught her for sure...no ifs-ands-or buts...really for sure, then you should most definitely walk away but she's going to ask why and when she does tell her *specifically* why. Then turn around and leave and never look back. Maybe she'll think twice before playing with someone’s emotions like that again.
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Fri, 05-21-2004 - 12:51pm
Ok, I'm confused.... she's your ex girlfriend and you caught her cheating... meaning you caught her before you broke up with and broke up with her without confronting her? Or she broke up with you, then you found out while you were still together that she was with someone else? Or you two are broken up and now she's with someone else and you think she's cheating on you?

If you are already broken up, I vote no. What's the point? She'll deny it and even if she admits it, it won't really further your healing.


Carrie

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Fri, 05-21-2004 - 1:10pm
I wasnt confused until I read your post Itwin, lol. I couldnt keep up! lol!!!

Thats true though, it could have been many things that he meant.

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Fri, 05-21-2004 - 1:32pm
Sorry, misread post when I answered before...she's your ex-girlfriend??? If she's already your ex, what difference would it make? If you are still dating her then leave. If she's your ex, did you date 8 months or have you been broken up 8 months...how long HAVE you been broken up. If it was just recently (like just days ago) and she's wondering why, then tell her - but don't get back with her. If you broke up 8 months ago then don't bother. Did you catch her with another guy before or after you broke up (I'm assuming before because it wouldn't be cheating if it were after...)
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Sat, 05-22-2004 - 1:56am
Was it that confusing?

I was with her for 8 months. In the last month which was the 8th, i caught her with another guy. He was driving her car, while she was in the passenger seat. She was about 10 ft away from me when we made the eye contact. So she cheated on me, while we were still together.

I called her out on it. Called her cell and i knew she wasnt going to pick it up, nor return my call. Called her this morning. All i said was "once a cheater, always a cheater" and i hung up. Im not expecting a phone call in return, as a sign of guilt on her behalf.

Makes me feel good. I guess it was meant to happen

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Sat, 05-22-2004 - 2:00am
You had your say then, there's nothing to discuss. If you call now, what's the point... to get her to admit it? I vote no.


Edited 5/22/2004 2:06 am ET ET by itwinflame


Carrie

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Sun, 05-23-2004 - 2:35am
WHAT???? this is the basis of your suspicions??? she was in her car with another guy?
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Registered: 05-04-2004
Sun, 05-23-2004 - 3:09am
Run, don't walk, away. She doesn't deserve an explanation. She knows darn well what she did. Can anything she says change what she did? Then don't even get into it with her, unless you are prepared for her to try and talk her way out of it. I bet there are some expletives you'd like to share with her, but be prepared for lots of drama if you do.