Should she be told?
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Should she be told?
| Fri, 04-23-2004 - 1:42am |
A relative of mine was physically and emotionally abusive to his wife and children for years. The children are all out of the house and his wife died about two years ago. This relative just announced that he is planning to marry a woman he has been dating awhile now. I don't know her very well but other family members tell me she is a very nice person. I am quite certain that if I were engaged to a man with a history of abuse, I would want to know. Should she be told?

this is not an easy one to answer. i often thought about this - would i tell my stbx's next wife, for example, about his sexual
Jennifer
"Oh, that you would bless me indeed, and enlarge my territory, that Your hand would be with me, and that You would keep me from evi
One thing to be very careful about though, you should try to do it anonymously because if he finds out you were the one to spill the beans WATCH OUT. He will probably get the whole family against you. Families are so strange: they can see, hear, taste, feel, touch abuse and the word is still DENIAL, DENIAL, DENIAL!! It is an illness with NO CURE except to GET AWAY.
Do this gal a favor before it's too late. Send a letter (don't sign it), be very descriptive so that she will have to think about what she is reading. Even if she ends up marrying the guy, later on she will realize that there was at least ONE person who tried to help her................
I hope everything works out!!
blondebeauty03
STILL, at least now if something happens, the first sign, my warning will be back there in her mind and she can have an informed decision on how bad he can get, what he is capable of and can leave before she has to deal with all the scars I still have to ten years later.