Should a single mother stay single for their child?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-28-2007
Should a single mother stay single for their child?
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Mon, 02-06-2012 - 2:42pm

Thanks in advance to anyone who would take the time to give me advice.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-18-2009

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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-28-2007

I know and I let that go when I met my last boyfriend.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-18-2009

I think saying "I told you so" is justification to keep yourself single just because you had an experience that didn't work out. Of course closing yourself off from love will keep you from getting hurt again - Loving is ALWAYS a risk. But if you don't ever take the risk, you'll also never have a really fulfilling experience.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-28-2007
your right, thanks
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999

Just because one guy didn't work out doesn't mean that you shouldn't even try & wait 7 more years until she's in college.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-12-2011

I wouldn't say you have to stay single, but you have to be real careful who you bring into your child life. If the person does not get alone well with your child then that is a problem. You also have to make sure the man is not a child molester or abuser, many man pray on single mothers that have young children.

When I first separated from my ex I dated but I didn't introduce any of the guys to my son until we had been dating for almost a year and definitely didn't let them sleep over when my son was home. When you have a child you have to be concerned for their wellbeing and bringing the wrong person into your childs life can cause them great harm.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-12-2005

I'm a single mom and I don't see why should a single mom stay single.

I want to be in love. I want to redo my life with someone. I want my son to grow up in a normal family and to see what a good relationship between a man and a woman is.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2009

You met a man who didn't "mesh" with your daughter, and he didn't like your parenting style,

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999

I was in a hurry writing my response last night and I also wanted to add that I don't think it's good for a teenager to have the entire world revolve around them as if their parents don't have any needs.